Trigger warning– Christian virginity/purity culture throughout (which is absolutely not sarcasm as a trigger warning).
__________________Also, I told you not to read this, Mom._______________
I talked a bit Tuesday about how I lost my virginity, in my post on rape culture. I sort of mentioned but didn’t go into detail about the fact that the loss of my virginity was somewhat emotionally unmooring for me, in addition to the manner in which I “lost” it being awful. So today I’m going to talk about what I was taught about sex and virginity.
What I learned growing up: sex is power, but it’s all potential energy; once you’ve fallen, you have no more leverage.
The virginity cult(ure) sets women up for rape and abuse.