In the past few weeks, my facebook (and probably yours) have exploded with conversations about “rape culture.” So much so that it rated a shoutout on George Takei’s page.
And since it’s already come up a few times at DDP and is extremely likely to come up again and again, I’d like to talk about what we mean when we say “model of consent.”
“Model of consent” = What is it that makes sex not-rape?
“Model of consent” = how you know you’re good to go. No orange or red on the dashboard.
A model of consent is a set of conditions that you hold in your head that tells you, if you meet them, that you have your partner’s permission and agreement and can ethically proceed with sexual activity.
Different models have different conditions. Let’s talk about three different models of consent that people use, one of which (not my favorite) is our legal standard.