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Daily Archives: June 20, 2013

Open Letter to Kickstarter

20 Thursday Jun 2013

Posted by Jan DeVry in Economics, Media, Misogyny, Rape Culture

≈ 8 Comments

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being a decent human being, rape

Dear Kickstarter CEO Perry Chen,

We need to talk. Yesterday I would have considered myself your biggest fan. Now I’m not so sure about you. Why? Because you allowed Ken Hoinsky to raise $16,000 to teach men how to rape women.

I know, you may not see it that way, you’re just a conduit for entrepreneurship. Someone approved this project, after all. I guess he didn’t include the same excerpts that he had on Reddit in his application, which make it abundantly clear how abhorrent his ideas and this project are. (TW for sexual assault after the jump).  Continue reading →

Is this chivalry: A day in the mind of…well…me

20 Thursday Jun 2013

Posted by Lady Bee in Empowerment, Gender Roles, Humor

≈ 5 Comments

Tags

being a decent human being, feminism, society misconceptions

There are many things that make me mad: getting woken up before my alarm the day I am supposed to be awake at 8 am on a Sunday (who else would ever want to wake up that early anyways?), missing the bus because it got there early, when someone tells me I eat too much (to which I would respond, I could eat so much more!), and the list goes on.  Yesterday, gendered chivalry climbed to the top of my list after several instances of “chivalry” throughout the day.  

Yesterday was also one of those rare days in which I had stand apart clarity.  You know, when you are a participant of a situation, but can also stand apart and see it for what it is with unusual clarity.  And yesterday, such clarity came to me as I stood behind the bar of my restaurant job, thinking how I would write this article about chivalry.  I knew what my personal thoughts were on the matter; that chivalry in the traditional medieval sense was outdated and a modern approach to chivalry transcended gender.  Chivalry was simply being a human being.  Yet, the events of the day made me question if my personal definition of chivalry was as prevalent as I hoped.  It also made me question whether accepting help was a way of propagating the traditional concept of chivalry.

It all started (as you guessed it), yesterday at 3pm.  I was attempting to procrastinate setting up and stocking the bar – there was one beer in the main cooler; one out of 50 that should be in the freezer.  But I was immediately reminded of my duties by the manager and went downstairs into the basement to start bringing up boxes.  The other bartender, who is of a the male persuasion, insisted that he helped me.  I wasn’t going to say no; I had a lot of boxes of beer, wine and liquor to bring up a steep flight of stairs.  But then, as I made the second trip upstairs, I thought, well, would he have offered to help if I had been a dude?  Most definitely not.  That made me wonder, was I a damsel in distress?

Chivalry and the maid

– I bet she is thinking “I hope he doesn’t poke himself with that sword”

A distressed damsel is a terribly antiquated way of putting it, but I would imagine that is how people (and in this case, guys) would see it.  A chance to be a shining knight and help the poor weak damsel in dismay.  Chivalry in a modern setting.

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