Today’s post is a guest post by Beth H.
Not too long ago, I was spite reading a pro-life thread on Facebook about abortion. That’s not what this post is about. In that thread, the original poster made a comment about how “women who don’t want children should just get their tubes tied so they’re less likely to get abortions.”
HOLD UP THERE, LADY. I’m here to tell you that we WISH it was that easy.
In spite of years of work and progress regarding women’s rights and abilities to make choices about their own bodies, there’s still an inordinate amount of social pressure for women to make the choice to have children, a pressure that exists in nowhere near the same magnitude for men. Women are supposed to be caring, giving, selfless, and nurturing, and the backlash against women who don’t exhibit these traits is immense. Women are harassed about when they’ll be getting married and procreating, because if they don’t do it soon enough their biological clocks might tick out, as if the worst thing that could happen to a woman is childlessness. Unfortunately, since doctors are people too, it’s all too common for them to perpetuate these beliefs, and given their position of power over women’s reproductive decisions, they can make it very, very difficult on women who go against the standard-woman script.