People often ask me about my “coming out story.” What was it like? The truth is that when you’re queer, you come out all the time. Mostly because everyone around you assumes you’re straight, but also because your identity may change over time. You get better at coming out, over time, as you learn how to manage people’s reactions. Sometimes coming out is fun. Sometimes it’s terrifying. So I thought I might document some of my thousand little coming out stories, in more or less chronological order.
Some of the stories will only show what I said. Some will only show the reaction. Some will show both. All of them are from high school, since I no longer make an announcement of my sexuality, but mostly let my hairstyle and casual use of female/gender-neutral pronouns for love interests speak for themselves. I hope they give some insight into what it’s like to come out so many times, in so many ways.
friend, age 16
“Luz, you are attracted to both males and females. By definition, you are bisexual.”