The viral nature of the internet is an interesting phenomenon and The Good Men Project, like Jezabel and other hyper-popular blog groups (even DDP has gotten some awesome press lately) is no stranger to it. One of the GMP featured articles from February started showing up all over teh Facebooks a couple weeks ago and I’d like to take a moment to address it because, well, some things need to be addressed.
Before I start though I’d like to acknowledge the fact that there is a long and complicated history between feminists and The GMP. The involvement of Tom Matlack and Hugo Schwyzer is enough to keep the controversy kettle at a rolling boil but also the content is overwhelmingly heteronormative and the group has a poor track record for rape-apology. Potentially the most egregious example being this piece [note: I’m linking to Feministe‘s takedown and not the original article because I don’t want to be responsible for more page views. Also major TW for rape-apologizing].
I do however think there is a place in the world for spaces like The Good Men Project, and they’ve posted, in my opinion, some interesting and thought-provoking things as well. I get my conversations about ethical masculinity, as well as a million other things and how they all inter-relate, through intersectional feminism. But for people who haven’t made their way to feminism (yet) but still feel like they reject the “standard narrative” of masculinity I recognize the value in at least having a space to discuss it IF that space is used as a step toward feminism or at least a more intersectional understanding of the issues.
Over on policymic Liz Hall Magill wrote some good words about the history and the good and the bad of The Good Men Project. You can check it out here. Amanda Marcotte also wrote a piece on the fundamental problems with “men’s movements’ like The GMP which you should absolutely read.