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Happy Monday, Disruptors! Here are some things we’ve been reading and thinking about!
Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie talks about feminism from the perspective of African and Nigerian culture:
This is a description of what it’s like to report a sexual assault. [as the author states at the top: “There may be some triggers around sexual assault, victim blaming, and incompetent police officers.”]
An NFL punter was fired because he refused to quit speaking out in favor of marriage equality in Minnesota. It made me angry that they fired him, but mostly it made me happy that he was willing to be harassed at work and even fired rather than stop speaking out. This is what using privilege for good (his sway with the public) and solidarity actions (even when there’s a cost) look like. Gratitude.
This month in Sexism Hurts Men Too: straight white men don’t have any friends.
Queer poly triad buys a bed off of craigslist. Bridie says, “Funny, sweet, gave me #feelings.”
Children’s writer and feminist Kelly Barnhill responds to people who tell her to essentially “leave her feminism at the door”.
The thing is though? My identity as a feminist informs every facet of my life. It informs my parenting. It informs my reading. It informs the way I listen to the news. It informs my interactions with others. It informs my understanding. It informs the questions that I ask. And it informs the writing that I do – the novels for children, the short stories for grown ups, the stuff on this blog. I can’t take the feminism out. I don’t even know how.
From Bridie: “This for serious one of the best things I’ve read all month. It’s titled Fat-Booty Butch Wears Leggings – Confuses World, Confronts Self. It’s full of delicious hilarious reflections on gender presentation and queer community. Soooo good.”
From Skylar: “Incredibly…um…candid[?] interview about intentional devaluing of girl cartoon viewers because ‘they don’t buy toys‘.” Related: Amazing read about marketing, sexism, what’s wrong with geek culture, and (potentially) how to disrupt it: Why marketers fear the female geek.
Myths About Gender Confirmation Surgery [Discusses depression and suicidality as it pertains to gender dysphoria] Logan says, “Poor Chloe Sevigny.”
“Calling In” is a way of discussing oppressive behavior from people you think will get it, and want a continued relationship with.
Because when I see problematic behavior from someone who is connected to me, who is committed to some of the things I am, I want to believe that it’s possible for us to move through and beyond whatever mistake was committed….It means extending to ourselves the reality that we will and do fuck up, we stray and there will always be a chance for us to return. Calling in as a practice of loving each other enough to allow each other to make mistakes; a practice of loving ourselves enough to know that what we’re trying to do here is a radical unlearning of everything we have been configured to believe is normal.
Content note for rape, douchebags, rape apologists, and general immature asshattery: Raw Story reports that, “A men’s rights group is encouraging its followers to falsely accuse a sexual assault victims advocate of rape in a stunt intended to undermine the veracity of all rape accusations…”
Three reasons not to say “the mentally ill” (context: journalism)
1. “the” creates a sense of otherness (“new rights for the women” instead of “for women”)
2. use people-first language
3. “mental” reinforces an idea that mind is different than body or environment, when really they’re all three interacting, for mental illness and other illnesses.