Hey Disruptors! It’s Bisexual Visibility Day! Here at DDP, a number of the authors identify as bisexual, and have some good thoughts on the subject to share! Let’s take a tour of their pieces, shall we?
The Post-Label Falacy: Labels Matter, by Skylar Fox, published 7/16/14
Why do we even care about the use of labels like “bisexual?” Here are 4 reasons; I see #3 happening all the time!
You may feel like being post-labels is somehow more inclusive or progressive. But I’m here to tell you that we’re not there yet, labels still matter for lots of reasons, and maybe always will.
Happy National Coming Out Day, by Bridie, published 10/11/13
Why be out as a bisexual? In this post from last year’s National Coming Out Day, Bridie explains why!
Being vocal and visible as someone of a minority group – being out – is important. It counters negative stereotypes. It gives young people role models and visions for their own future. It lets people who are feeling alone and scared know that there is a community waiting to welcome them. And it relieves you of the burden of keeping part of yourself a secret. Your self – your whole self – is beautiful and worthy of being announced to the world.
Bisexual Visibility, by M. Lunas (ooh, that’s me!), published 9/23/13
I wrote a post exactly one year ago on the topic of Bisexual Visibility Day! With statistics! And life experiences! And a Harvey Milk video!
My life is full of other bisexuals, and I see such a variety of what that looks like in practice in terms of their attractions, their relationships. It’s beautiful, and I wish more people could see it. There are still too many people are out there with bisexual attraction and afraid to discuss it, afraid to be open about it. How much less mistrusted and misunderstood would bisexuality be more people were visible and out? How much stronger, how much bigger would the queer movement be?
You Can’t Sit With Us: On Losing Privilege, by Lucy Small, published 8/12/13
Lucy on her experience of how the world treated her differently when she had a girlfriend instead of a boyfriend.
Occasionally, I’ll forget where I am (on a subway platform) and wrap my arms around my girlfriend, only to be reminded that it’s not a good idea. We’ll vent and share in that frustration, though I always seem to be more outwardly cranky about it than she is. Granted, that’s partially due to the fact that we express ourselves differently. However, there’s a little bit more to it…For me, however, the double standard adds extra salt to a wound that already stings.
Why are lesbians so Biphobic? by Luz Delfondo, published 7/17/13
Luz proposes 3 explanations for why bisexual women experience hostility from some lesbians; #2 also explains why male bisexuals are seen as gay (hint: phallocentrism).
I’m a lesbian myself, but I have had bi women as romantic and sexual partners, and I am appalled by the way my bi friends and lovers have been treated by my fellow lesbians. I hope that if we understand the root causes behind these harmful attitudes, we can work to change them.
I kissed a girl (and a boy!) and I liked it, by Lucy Small, published 5/24/13
Lucy takes on the many stereotypes people have of her and smashes them!
Among bisexual men and women, there’s a whole range of experiences out there. We come in all different shapes, sizes, hairstyles, AND genders…Some bisexuals date women/feminine-of-center people most of the time, others date men/masculine-of-center people most of the time, while still others like a nice mix of everything. There’s no magic bisexuality threshold. If one person’s mix is 50/50 and another’s is 90/10, neither one is more authentically bisexual than the other. Some are monogamous, and some are polyamorous — just like straight and gay people! All of us think it’s none of your damn business.
Lots of other pieces on queer issues are also applicable to bisexuals, and we have a lot of them! Got favorite pieces from here or other sites? Let us know in the comments!