Content Note: Aftermath of abuse, related feels
It’s been a while since I’ve written about my history with intimate partner violence. It was my first post for the blog and came at a very intense time in my life when I was still in the throes of working my way out of that relationship. A lot has happened since then. A lot of struggles, but a lot of good things. So many good things that I wrote a post about how I wanted to stop writing about the bad things. And by and large, that does reflect my focus now — going forward, trying not to look back. Taking each day for what it is.
But a lot of the things that I most appreciate about my life right now are things that I appreciate precisely because of the things I’ve been through — though let’s be clear, that is not to say that I am grateful for those events. If I could arrange to have not gone through those things, I very often think that I would choose to have not experienced them. Still, many of the things I’m currently so grateful for are tiny details whose significance makes no sense without the context of the things that came before them. So for this post, I’d like to share some of those small victories with you, dear disruptors, especially for those of you who are in an abusive relationship or who may have just left one. Or who have left one long ago, but still sometimes get those painful feelings tugging you back in a direction that you’re trying not to go. Continue reading