After the Paris terrorist attacks, a plethora of US state governors came out against welcoming refugees to their state. This sort of xenophobic isolationism is nothing new, but it is incredibly dangerous. The ability of people displaced by conflict to find safe passage to a safe destination is a moral imperative, and, what’s more, it’s a feminist issue.
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Let’s talk about family values, y’all. I’m not talking about the so called “family values” pushed by the religious right. This isn’t some anti-marriage-equality Focus on the Family nonsense that keeps families from accessing legal rights. And it’s not about pressuring hetero couples to maintain gender norms for the good of the children, nor is it about taking reproductive choices away from people. No, the anti-feminists have falsely laid claim to the political realm of the family for too long.
Families are important, and family values, real family values, are feminist values. To prove it to you, here’s a list of five family-forward policies feminist are pushing for and taking action on–and way that you can join in the work.
In my social circles online and in person, I’ve seen and heard people wondering what they can do in support of the #BlackLivesMatter movement. I certainly can’t claim to speak for the movement, but from what I’ve heard and read from other participants, I’ve compiled a short, non-exhaustive list of policies you can support to end police profiling, brutality, and impunity against Black folks in the US.
Of course, changing policy is only one way to take action on this issue. At the heart of this is changing the value placed on Black lives, by society, by individuals, and by institutions. There are also non-policy-focused ways you can affect change, like helping change attitudes among your personal social network,donating to organizations leading the movement or to the victims and victims’ families, speaking out publicly against racism whenever you see it, and participating in actions out in the streets. If you’re White and wondering what to do, here are twelve ideas to get you started.
1.Establishing citizen review boards
Citizen review boards with firing power can create consequences for police brutality that the current system fails to do. Here’s one example of what that would look like. I’ve also heard people advocate for a federal division to prosecute local law enforcement violence, perhaps in the Civil Rights section of the Justice Department.
2. Demilitarization of police
Call your Congressional representatives in support of H. R. 5478, to end “Program 1033” which allows the Pentagon to sell war equipment to local police stations. The bill is bipartisan, but right now Congressional Republicans are blocking it. Find out which reps are blocking it and start calling campaigns in their districts. You can also advocate for demilitarization from a local level–find out whether your municipality participates in 1033 and pressure them not to. Continue reading
Let’s get reflective this Wednesday.
Here in 2014, being trans is still considered a mental illness by the American Psychiatric Association.* Women face threats of death, rape, and mass shootings for having opinions about video games. 33 states (counting DC) have legalized same sex marriage, while 16 have banned it. Four states have a domestic workers’ bill of rights. Beyonce and Benedict Cumberbatch are avowed feminists. I am getting tired of listing things…
As we head toward our next calendar year, let’s take a moment before the turkey- and/or sugar-comas kick in to think about what we’re building toward in our future:
Where do we want feminism to be in fifteen years?
What do we want to have changed about the world? What do we want to have changed about ourselves as a movement? Please speak up in the comments below!
“Tone policing” is one of those phrases feminists throw around in the hopes that you’ll google it yourself if you haven’t heard of it before. Much has been written about what it is and why it’s busted, all easily accessible at your fingertips thanks to the glories of the internet.
Essentially, “tone policing” or the “tone argument” is the practice of responding to an argument by focusing on the way it was said, instead of the actual issue it addresses. Often, it derails the whole conversation, distracting from something that was usually pretty important.
Lucreta identifies two types of tone policing: “I agree with you, but I think you could have phrased it better,” and “I would agree with you if you phrased it better.”
Let’s talk about how these two are different, and what you can do instead:
“I would agree with you if you’d phrased it better” Continue reading
Disruptors of the USA- today is election day! You know what that means…
It means that if you’re a citizen, you should head to your local polling place post-haste!
- Not registered to vote? You can do it at your polling place, which is much closer to your house and likely has a much shorter line than your DMV. Why put off tip tomorrow what you can do much faster and easier today?
- Don’t think voting matters? Today’s election is a local one, and could include your town government, school board, and state legislature. This is government as close to home as it gets- the people who decide if your schools have a restorative justice policy (alternative to school-to-prison pipeline), if your roads have bike lanes, if your city provides enough affordable housing, if your state allows same sex marriage. Plus, there are ballot initiatives, laws you can vote directly for or against. Today I voted to legalize personal marijuana possession in DC, a step against the racist enforcement of drug laws.
- Don’t know where your polling place is? Vote411.org has a handy box on the left of their webpage where you can type in your address and it’ll show you your polling place on a map. If you live in a city your polling place is likely a block or two from your house. Find it!
- Not sure whom to vote for? You probably received a voter guide in the mail, but if you lost it, there’s an easy solution! Again, type your address into Vote411.org and they’ll give you a rundown of exactly what races and questions are on your ballot, right down to the most local, including candidates’ positions in their own words. Don’t let the perfect be the enemy of the good- educate yourself enough to make a good decision on at least a few races you care about, and go with it.
- Still confused by this whole voting thing? Check out the wisdom Rebecca laid on us last week, with ten easy tips on how to vote.
Now go earn those stickers, kids! I’m wearing mine right now.
Edit: WordPress has created a nifty tool with voting information, which we’ve added below:
We’ll be changing the blog to a Monday-Wednesday-Friday update schedule. As you probably know, this is an all-volunteer venture. That means we’ve got full-time jobs, other activist pursuits, hobbies, friends, family, and general life stuff to balance on top of our commitment to the blog. So we’re slowing down our posting schedule at least temporarily, while we look for new editors.
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Are you interested in writing for DDP? We’re looking to expand our writer and editor pool.
We’re an awesome group of people who care about intersectional social justice, with a (very not exclusive) focus on gender equality. We also write about racial justice, class issues, LGBT rights, mental health, and dis/ability, among other things–and the way those systems of privilege overlap.
Writing for DDP has been incredibly rewarding for me. Disrupting Dinner Parties is an all-volunteer collective feminist blog that posts new, original content every weekday and receives about 1,000 views per day. Internally, it’s a supportive, fun, thoughtful, and thought-provoking community who help each other think through complicated issues and give constructive feedback on each other’s posts.
We’re looking for guest posts from those interested in becoming permanent editors, and from those just looking for a venue for a single article. We’re especially looking for historically marginalized voices: gender non-conforming or trans people, people of color, people from the dis/ability community, queer people, and others. Please email disruptingdinnerparties at gmail if you’re interested in writing a guest post or becoming an editor.
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