The first time I saw one of the couples I live with sit in our shared living room and have a fight, I was shocked. Why didn’t they take it to their bedroom, to their private space? Why did they feel that it was okay to hash out the details of their relationship disagreements in public? It was so awkward.
In our culture, we tend to push conflict out of the way. We don’t want to see it. We don’t like conflict in our workplace, or in our home, and most especially in our intimate relationships.
But over time its grown on me, as I’ve realized there is value to conflict in plain sight. I’ve realized that living in a community with a “pro-conflict stance” (as a friend recently put it) can actually be healthier, even happier.