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Partner Privilege

22 Tuesday Dec 2015

Posted by Rebecca Flin in Class, Dating, Gender Roles, Privilege, Relationships

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dating, marriage, marriage equality, personal histories, Privilege, Relationships, social status, society misconceptions

It’s the holidays, and once again, Facebook and Instagram feeds throughout the land are bedazzled with photos of happy couples, a ring conspicuously featured on one of their hands. A clever caption that might as well (but doesn’t actually) say “We’re engaged!” floats nearby or inside the photo itself, while a gazillion “likes” and congratulatory comments trail at the bottom.

engagement i said yes

You want to feel happy for them. And you probably do! But happiness isn’t always the only emotion present –especially if you are single. Yes, my single compatriots, you feel joy in the celebration of your friends’ love, yet you also feel jealous. And then you feel bad about yourself for feeling jealous.

And perhaps you aren’t even jealous of them and their engagement, but of the social status that goes along with it. The engagement announcement carries with it a strange sense of failure, and perhaps the shame of Why do I not have a partner?

If this sounds familiar, congratulations.  You have stumbled upon one of the many manifestations of Partner Privilege, the invisible force in society that rewards people for being in committed romantic relationships, and shames those who are not. Continue reading →

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What we’re reading 1/6/14

06 Monday Jan 2014

Posted by Kate in What we're reading

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calling in, cartoons, chimamanda, chris kluwe, colonialism, comics, consent, feminism, friends, gender performance, girl geeks, marriage equality, mental health, MRAs, people first, poly, Queer, sexism hurts men too, sexual assault, ted talks

Happy Monday, Disruptors! Here are some things we’ve been reading and thinking about!

Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie talks about feminism from the perspective of African and Nigerian culture:

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This is a description of what it’s like to report a sexual assault. [as the author states at the top: “There may be some triggers around sexual assault, victim blaming, and incompetent police officers.”]

An NFL punter was fired because he refused to quit speaking out in favor of marriage equality in Minnesota. It made me angry that they fired him, but mostly it made me happy that he was willing to be harassed at work and even fired rather than stop speaking out. This is what using privilege for good (his sway with the public) and solidarity actions (even when there’s a cost) look like. Gratitude.

Click to see a Storify discussing women of color, white feminists, and the legacy of colonial rape culture

Click to see a Storify discussing women of color, white feminists, and the legacy of colonial rape culture

This month in Sexism Hurts Men Too: straight white men don’t have any friends.

Queer poly triad buys a bed off of craigslist. Bridie says, “Funny, sweet, gave me #feelings.”

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